long distance relationship.

Once, I came across over a discussion  on the radio while on my way back.The topic of the day was LDR.which stands for long distance relationship.
Its seems from what i heard was LDR.I was curious about it,

A couple who managed to survive it  They were from an era. An era where there is no things called as internet! No email! No Webcam! No skype!it seems that they managed to survive through the old-fashion way-writing letters to each other.It seems that they will write to each other every month.And try to guess how long that they wrote to each other  ?  3 months ? 9 months ? Tsk tsk no no no... 10 years.10 years of communicating thru letters.Honestly i found the story amusing.Cuz from the stories I heard before this was about how the people that called to the radio station, tell their stories on how most of them try to LDR and couldnt survive the hardship that came out which consist of some cheated on their partners, lost interest, lost trust n etc.


What was more amazing was that that woman that called in said that they are currently happily married for 10 years with 4 kids.and there I was thinking ''woah , aunty how old are u now lar?'' So basically they  know each other for 20 years + if I'm not mistaken .=S
Seriously it's really amazing to hear these true stories.Actually it did kinda clear my doubt slight bit about LDR.


Honestly all this while I was thinking how most high school sweethearts will survive college life.Will they enroll into the same college or try out Long distance relationship if one of them goes outstation? Even so, can LDR last ?and how ?




Another one that I heard was from my friend who try LDR from this guy who's from Singapore.She managed to last with this guy about 1 years  but unfortunately they couldn't managed to survive thru.They did meet during the holidays and they seems to communicate thru web cam , msn and skype.Once again, Is it that hard to last ?




For those who  used to be close get separated in LDR.It will be hard at first.
At first the distance would be uncomfortable for the couples.One might fear for the other of one's honesty and trust.Doubt is of course there.It would be hard and it takes alot of effort.One may not get used to the sudden change of  relationship.Besides that one would fear of the other's condition.Basically like parents keep asking about them haha.
Okay let me give an example,
If a banana person(a person who doesnt know mandarin) goes to a college which is far away and full of chinese people.The other partner might be worry all the time on how that banana person gonna survive?
Its like you're in a place with  everyone who speaks alien language.How could the partner not worry ?
The partner might be thinking

'' Can the dude order food?''

'' Crap, does he know how to ask the lecturer's permission to the toilet ?''and etc etc.

The dude might count his partner as bothering and get fed-up of her.


The other scenario is one's feel insecure of oneself and not confident enough to try LDR.One might think low of him/herself.Thinking that their partner might find better than them and dump them .Thinking that they might not be good enough for them.In simple words, thinking too much!


Honestly, I'm actually a person who can't stand LDR.The idea of being far away from the person you love is hard.When you're in depression state, who do you find ? Times like this is kinda hard , to find your closest friend and that someone special of yours; you will kinda have a second thought whether to seek comfort and advice.When you're in a LDR, the other partner will have a life there.Far away from you where you can't constantly know what they are doing.They might be busy with their college life or having a great time with their friends there. Come on la, who are we to interrupt them them while they are in a good mood? hahaha
Basically its like  someone's big fat arse blocking your view when you are watching your favourite  tv show! Annoying ? It might.


Well to me thats how its seems.Its Hard at first.Will it be easy after this ? I hope.I guess communication is the one of the most crucial thing to have a last and long relationship not only in LDR.

Trust compassion

Remember: Things will get better with time, and even the relationship will become better. Have hope.

The irony of life

Its when something is made for a purpose or something should have go a way but the outcome is the total opposite of it. Its like when we plan every single details and prepare ourselves for it and expect the best possible outcome of it but it didn’t turns out the way it suppose to be and it turns out the total opposite of it.


Example like the stories we read in the newspaper everyday ,under those newspaper title lies a story left untold. Like the increase price of the petrol which kept increasing over the years.As it may seem like a small and common stuff that happen over the years,but have you ever thought that it might be some conspiracy that the government is planning to make us more poor and keeping the money to themselves? Haha call me hypocrite or anything, it might be true and you will never know.or its just me thinking too much =X


Anyway well we shall just skip that, lets include something which everyone goes through which is… wait for it EXAM! Even hearing the word makes my head dizzy.I’m sure all of you guys been through this during exam, you study like hell, burn the midnight oil, revise till your pupils turns white (okay, this is just exaggerating)  but in simple words, you study hard and what you get for your results? Arrghh a B? I was suppose to get an A.This is just random. My main point is that your result wasn’t really what you wanted and was far from your real aim.But think back what u were doing while you were ‘studying hard’; did you study last minute? Did you text someone while studying?Did you concentrate on your book instead of dozing off in your dreamland? Were you trying to figure out your personal problems? Or you were killing 2 birds with 1 stone or 3 birds in this case as you were chatting online , playing facebook and studying at the same time ?  Haha think about it ;D


Another aspects of irony of life is relationships.Everything works out well , in a relationship, you thought the guy you love have shown that he truly love you after he says the three words ( Attention, most girls, wait cross that every girls couldn’t resist the three words).As time goes by , you gave your heart and make him your everything ;you guys will spend the rest of your life together and you guys have plan your future and stuff.Awh… so sweet and you guys live happily ever after.Too bad, there’s no such thing as happily ever after and it only exist in fairytale.They should ban fairytales as it teaches children such this dillusion that happily ever after even exist.Rawr!


As my story revolves the irony of life.Life doesn’t turns out the way you wanted. Anything could happen in any moment.One moment its still here and the next thing you know it, its gone.Just like that.As you are I love, you are blinded by what you think is true and what they want you think its true.At this age , most of these young adolescent aren’t sincere in love and at this phase of life, they tend to enjoy their youth and make the best of it.So don’t take your relationship and love life seriously.It will help you in a long term and as for those who got heart broken, don’t give up on love as there are better out there.Try to forget the jerk that broke your heart.It might be hard but once you get over it, you will feel a sense of ease,clarity and freedom.You will find a better one out there.Like most people tell me, when one door closes, the other opens. Things, circumstances, and people come and go, and the only thing that remains constant is YOU, witnessing it all from the present moment.


I might not be very experience in this stuff but you can say I have seen and been through this phase.Believe me at some point of your life you will go through this phase of irony.So enjoy your life, live your life to the max.Make every mistake you make, your last mistake and first  valueable lessons. Try to see every bad things that happen in your life a good thing as these horrible things that happen teaches us and show us the value of life.Be positive because everything will be fine and works out in the end.Take my word, it will work out , you just gotta be strong to make through life.

La vie est formidable!life's great!